Eliminating Social Media Negativity for the New Year

Social media can be a great way to connect with old friends or loved ones, or even get the latest updates on news and trends. However, certain parts of social media can affect us negatively, especially some of those we follow on social media may not be accounts we actually enjoy seeing pop up on our news feed.

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Elizabeth Cobb
Using DBT to Help You Get Your Needs Met

By learning to practice skills like DEARMAN, it’s possible to move away from the expectation that others should automatically know what you want and need, and instead communicate your needs in a respectful and confident way, opening you up to healthier relationships with others and a stronger sense of self.

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Connecting and Reflecting During the Holiday Season

During the winter season we see words like “joyful,” “peace,” “happy,” and “merry.” While the holidays can be a very festive time, it can also be a difficult time. There can be several expectations on us to “celebrate” and attend social gathers, yet at the same time it can feel very lonely. So, as we are in the holiday season and are approaching the New Year, try taking some time to connect and reflect in a helpful way.

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Elizabeth Cobb
Self-Care During the Holiday Season

The month of December, specifically the upcoming stretch until New Years, can feel festive and exciting, but they also can come with a lot of stress and anxiety. Below are some tips so that you can make the most out of the holiday season.

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Elizabeth Cobb
Get Out of the Mirror and Into Your Life

Accepting ones body in its natural, ever changing form, is NOT an easy task. We live in a society that glorifies weight loss, transformation, and the ‘thin ideal’ (which by the way is always changing). Body acceptance, therefore, means ‘going against the current’ of society and making peace with your natural shape, even if it doesn’t fit into the narrowly defined ‘current’ ideal.

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Handling Grief Around the Holidays

As the old Christmas carol goes, the holidays are often considered “the most wonderful time of the year,” and are typically associated with positive feelings and “Christmas cheer.” For many people, however, the holidays are a reminder of what has been lost, whether it be the passing of a loved one, someone currently in critical condition medically, or experiencing stressors that have ruined old, nostalgic traditions that we have looked forward to in the past. I know from my own experience that the holidays lose their sparkle a bit once a major loss is experienced. Here are some ideas for how to cope with grief around the holidays by being true to your emotional experience and bringing in self-care. 

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Elizabeth Cobb
Working Hard to Work Well

Many of us spend the majority of our time working, spending more time with co-workers than we do with our own families. So, it is understandable that many clients in therapy talk about their jobs —difficulties navigating their role, their colleagues, and their stress. Here are some tips on doing a good job, fulfilling your role, and feeling good while doing it.

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Post-Thanksgiving Gratitude: A Daily Practice

Even though Thanksgiving is over, that doesn’t mean that the focus on gratitude should end too. Gratitude can have a positive impact on your overall wellbeing, and it doesn’t even require a lot of a time (and it’s free!). While many of us know how good it can feel to give thanks, it is easy to forget once we get back into the rhythm of daily life.  Here are some ways to incorporate gratitude practices into your life. 

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Elizabeth Cobb
Surrendering to Holiday Travel Stress

There are so many situations in our everyday lives that we have no control over, such as subway traffic, long lines at the airport, waiting for a late friend or arriving too early to plans later in the day. In these situations, we tend to become inpatient, frustrated and on the verge of an anxiety attack. These situations tend to become more common around holiday time, especially while traveling.

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Elizabeth Cobb
Rewiring the Brain with CBT

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a treatment that is notorious for its benefits in treating many types of mental disorders, most notably anxiety and depression. The premise of CBT is that the way we think influences our mood, and thus our actions. When unhelpful thinking patterns plague us day in and day out, we are bound to experience lower self-esteem and increased stress. In my work, I frequently use a metaphor to describe how CBT eventually helps shift these thought spirals. First, I think it’s necessary to provide an overview of CBT in order to understand how those changes will occur.

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Elizabeth Cobb
Sleep Hygiene: What is it and Why is it Important?

When people are struggling to get a good night’s sleep, it can affect many aspects of their life, including their mood. Often times people talk about “sleep hygiene” and how we need to improve it, but what does sleep hygiene actually mean? Rather than cleanliness, like hygiene usually suggests, sleep hygiene refers to good habits and practices relating to sleep.

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Transference in the Therapeutic Relationship: What Is It and How Can We Use It?

Your relationship with your therapist is a professional one, but it is still a relationship. So it is important to recognize that you will have different feelings come up during your time together. Think about who we choose to be our therapists. Do we choose someone around our age for relatability? Someone older for wisdom? Someone of our gender, ethnic background, or shared religious views?

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Elizabeth Cobb
Single in the City

Being single can be challenging (especially in a big city like New York).  Dating apps have made it easier to meet other people, but do not necessarily secure relationships.  Since dates are so simple to get with modern technology, most people do not invest the time and energy into creating a meaningful relationship. If you are no longer interested in going on infinite first dates, try the following tips and hopefully you will see improvements in your dating life.

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How to Respond to Others With Empathy

Have you ever struggled to respond to someone when they tell you bad news? Or despite trying really hard to make someone feel better, you seem to only make them feel worse? Responding to other people's pain is difficult, so how can we learn to respond more effectively?

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Elizabeth Cobb
Your Imposter is the Fraud, Not You

I’m a creep. I’m a weirdo. What the hell am I doing here? I don’t belong here. Sound familiar?

The thoughts we have about our abilities and accomplishments that lead to self-doubt begin to become conclusions about ourselves and our situations that are not based in reality.

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