Reflecting on Our Resolutions

By Charity Diaz, LMSW

The New Year brings fresh beginnings, directions, dreams, goals, and resolutions.  This time of year, resolutions have been made and are in full force — joining a gym, decreasing drinking and/or smoking, finding a new job, working towards financial security, etc. For many people, these resolutions are typically the go-to in starting a healthier New Year to improve and ultimately change their overall wellbeing.  Hmm, but what about resolutions related to one’s emotional wellbeing?  The quest for emotional wellbeing rings true and albeit has a different emotional stake from one person to the next, such as rediscovering and reconnecting with self; managing anxiety, depression, and stress; creating meaningful friendships, attaining romantic love and partnership; and ultimately thriving and living happily.

While it can certainly be motivating to set a resolution and is an accomplishment to achieve that resolution, it could also be anxiety provoking.  As reported in “Making your New Year’s Resolution Stick” by the American Psychological Association (APA), deciding upon and achieving a resolution ought to include the following five steps:

  1. Start small: assessing yourself and commitment by making a resolution that is realistic. 

  2. Change one behavior at a time: choose a behavior or goal that is of most importance to you to work on first.

  3. Talk about it: disclose your chosen resolution with your social networks as a way of extended support. 

  4. Do not beat yourself up: should you disengage and “mess up” in achieving your resolution then simply reassess and give yourself and your resolution another go.

  5. Ask for support: depending upon the resolution, if navigating the process solo is not working, consider consulting a professional such as a mental health provider, nutritionist, personal trainer, etc.  The support is out there for you!

Most resolutions are no small task and whether it is an emotional, behavioral, physical, personal, or professional goal there certainly has to be commitment, dedication, and drive to accomplish that resolution.  So which resolution is working toward emotional and physical wellbeing, healthier familial and social relationships, a stronger romantic partnership, and/or professional success?  While I hope you are on your way, I also recognize that it may be hard for you to navigate an emotional resolution without professional support.  If you are struggling and are ready to explore that emotional resolution then ask for support.  Wishing you and your resolution much happiness and success!

Charity Diaz is a therapist at Cobb Psychotherapy. If you are looking for support in finding solutions to enhance your overall wellness, contact Cobb Psychotherapy by calling 718-260-6042 or emailing, and see how therapy can help.

Elizabeth Cobb