Training & Certifications
Complex Trauma Certification Training by Janina Fischer
Complex Trauma and Dissociation by The International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation
The Institute of Contemporary Psychotherapy – Trauma Studies Center
EMDR by Roy Kiessling
Internal Family Systems by The Center for Self Leadership
Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavior Therapy (TF-CBT)
New York State License Number: 101684
Faige Flakser, LMSW
Brooklyn Heights / Midtown
“If you put shame in a petri dish, it needs three ingredients to grow exponentially: secrecy, silence and judgement. If you put the same amount of shame in the petri dish and douse it with empathy, it can’t survive.” —Brene Brown
Domestic/Intimate Partner Violence
Victims of Sexual Violence
Adult Survivors of Child Abuse·
Hi! I am Faige and I’m a therapist at Cobb Psychotherapy. I specialize in trauma and work with individual adults, empowering them to access their innate human capacity to heal.
What I Do
I practice trauma-focused psychotherapy, which is therapy that views behaviors and symptoms as an adaptive response to trauma. This includes recognizing where sensitivities trigger a fight, flight, or freeze response, understanding the role of shame in perpetuating the effects of trauma, and noticing attachment styles that play out in the therapeutic relationship. Trauma therapy uses parts language to develop a meta-awareness of how trauma impacts a client, instead of believing the feelings and responses are the essence of the client. It includes noticing where trauma shows up in the body by paying attention to minute physical reactions throughout the therapy session and in turn, utilizing the body to calm the nervous system and create a level of safety. Trauma therapy works to bring the client out of the traumatic past and into a safe present, where the innate human capacity to heal can finally happen.
How I Help
Trauma informed therapy is based on the premise that there isn’t something wrong with you but that something happened to you. That something is often a trauma, although it hasn’t necessarily been recognized as such. Trauma and its effects can be obvious, but more often it is not. It can present as anxiety or depression yet feels like something deeper, lingering for years, unacknowledged, and untreated. A way of being shaped by negative self-beliefs and self-protective behaviors that became a part of you, with a strong grip of shame that makes it harder to let go of defenses. With trauma informed therapy, I focus on safety first; especially emotional safety, where we honor what the most vulnerable parts need. Trauma therapy is compassionate, accepting, and gentle; yet deep, effective, and gets to the core of what brings a client into therapy.
Therapy, especially trauma therapy, is an art and a science. The art is the relationship; the trust, the emotional safety, the space for transformative healing to happen. The science is the knowledge needed to recognize traumatic reactions and the skills to know how to create a safe present. As a lifelong learner, I am constantly immersing myself in cutting-edge research and learning new modalities of how best to combine the art and the science for experiences of deep healing.
More About Me
Before I became a social worker, I worked in the field of special education. I learned how children develop cognitively and enjoyed helping their brains reach beyond their learning curve and achieve new stages of cognition. Becoming a therapist introduced me to the world of emotional development and how clients can reach beyond their own traumas to achieve new levels of emotional and psychological insight that is so healing. Such different careers, yet both are about growth and development. I am honored and privileged to be able to do such meaningful and sacred work and I look forward to creating that special space with you, where all parts are truly welcome.