We encounter dozens of people throughout the course of our day. Whether it is during our morning commute, in a meeting at work, or with friends, it is inevitable that we interact with others on a daily basis. As a human species, we instinctively compare ourselves to one another. We compare as a way to figure out where we fit in amongst others and to more deeply understand ourselves. It is not only a survival technique, but it is how we function as social animals.
We are created to have unique characteristics, strengths, and weaknesses. There will always be someone “better” or “more successful” according to our minds. When we compare ourselves, we end up minimizing our own unique qualities, which can lead to symptoms of depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem.
Remind yourself of these three things to stop comparing yourself to others:
So… how do I actually stop comparing myself to others?
1. Start by practicing self-awareness
2. Focus on your strengths.
3. Accept yourself for who you are —strengths and weaknesses included.
4. Identify what you can and cannot change.
5. Instead of seeking differences amongst others, look for commonalities.
It is essential to focus on self-improvement rather than “comparing and despairing”. This will allow you to meet attainable goals, to celebrate your own successes, and to have supportive, fulfilling relationships along the way.
Hannah Tishman is a therapist at Cobb Psychotherapy. If you are looking for support in finding solutions to enhance your overall wellness, contact Cobb Psychotherapy by calling 718-260-6042 or emailing email@example.com, and see how therapy can help.