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Thoughts and ideas from the team at Cobb Psychotherapy LCSW

  • The He(art) of Letter Writing: Compassionate Connection
    September 25, 2020 at 1:00 PM
    The most precious gift we can offer begins with a deeper awareness of one another’s suffering and a conscious intention to cultivate more meaningful connection. Despite living in a social networking era that has helped us connect globally, the vast majorit...
  • Find Something You Love To Do (And Let Yourself Fail At It)
    June 9, 2020 at 1:00 PM
    For some time, I had this sinking feeling that my curiosity and creativity may have peaked at age ten. Back then, I felt I was full of stories to tell, pictures to paint and inventions to be discovered. My audience deemed everything I wrote to be a masterp...
  • Practicing Radical Acceptance During COVID-19
    May 24, 2020 at 1:00 PM
    It’s difficult to shift focus in a time of crisis, especially when your plans unexpectedly change, or expectations are not met. You might have had vacation plans disrupted, birthdays and anniversary plans suspended, weddings and funerals canceled. It’s unc...
  • Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR): What It Is and How It Can Help You
    April 23, 2020 at 2:00 PM
    We are not immune to the people and things that surround us. Our body reacts to our environment, taking in the stimuli and responding to it physically.  When we internalize certain stimuli, such as the joy of engaging in pleasant activities, our nervous sy...
  • Managing Obsessive Compulsive Disorder During a Pandemic
    April 14, 2020 at 1:00 PM
    I never imagined that I would be treating clients with OCD during a pandemic. This is a unique situation and I myself often question the appropriate amount of hand-washing and hygienic behaviors I should engage in. However, it is important to know that pro...
  • Staying Mindful and Empathetic During Difficult Times
    April 10, 2020 at 1:00 PM
    Because every human on this planet is an individual, we process difficult times differently. None of us are strangers to traumas and hardships and certainly all of us have seen negative news stories before. But, there is something quite different about wha...
  • How to Care for Your Evolving Needs During COVID-19
    April 8, 2020 at 1:00 PM
    While each of us has a unique relationship to the COVID-19 pandemic and how it has affected our lives, a likely common denominator is that we have all been asked to make significant changes. For some, these changes may have been somewhat welcome: maybe you...
  • How to Stay Balanced in the Time of Coronavirus
    April 5, 2020 at 1:00 PM
    One of the most common refrains I hear from clients in the time of coronavirus is how abruptly and frequently their moods shift. This is an uncertain, ever-changing time, in which many of our routines have been removed, along with many of our usual methods...
  • Therapists Make Mistakes Too
    March 4, 2020 at 2:00 PM
    One of the most important parts of being a therapist is self-care. Self-care is any activity that someone does deliberately to take care of their own mental, physical, or emotional wellbeing. It can range from getting your nails done, to going to the gym, ...
  • Easily Irritable? Anxiety Might Be The Reason
    February 26, 2020 at 2:00 PM
    We all become irritated from time to time — it’s part of being human!  However, the type of irritability I am talking about is ongoing and regularly occurring. So what's the cause?  While anxiety can manifest in different ways for different people, fo...
  • The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse in Relationships
    February 19, 2020 at 2:00 PM
    According to Dr. Gottman, founder of the Gottman Institute and pioneer relationship researcher, four communication styles predict the demise of relationships. In the New Testament, the four horsemen—conquest, war, hunger, and death—foreshadow the end of ti...
  • Why It's So Difficult to Change Your Mind
    January 16, 2020 at 2:00 PM
    I was quoted in a Well + Good article about the psychology of disagreeing with yourself, in which the author explores why it’s so difficult to change your mind. I wanted to spend some time elaborating on my views about why it’s so difficult to change your...
  • Using DBT to Help You Get Your Needs Met
    September 23, 2019 at 1:00 PM
    Wouldn’t it be nice if other people always knew exactly what we wanted and needed from them? Unfortunately, that’s not the reality that we all live in, though it’s a near-universal experience to struggle with the disappointment that comes when someone does...
  • Supporting Your Child Through Back-to-School Anxiety
    September 3, 2019 at 1:00 PM
    As the summer season comes to an end, a new school year begins, and your child will transition into the next chapter of their childhood and academic journeys.  While these transitions are an exciting phase in a child’s life, such transitions can also cause...
  • The Importance of Listening to Understand
    August 2, 2019 at 1:00 PM
    There is a major difference between listening to understand and listening to respond. It is natural to listen to others speak and to instinctively find a way to relate with a personal anecdote or jogged memory. It is how our brains sort through thousands o...
  • How Do I Know If I’m Overreacting?
    June 25, 2019 at 1:00 PM
    We’ve all been there. Walking down the overcrowded streets of NYC only to get bumped into by a seemingly rude, self-centered New Yorker rushing to work. Maybe you scowled or took it a step further and started yelling obscenities at the perpetrator. Maybe y...
  • Therapy is Not a Place to Lie to Yourself (or Your Therapist)
    June 18, 2019 at 1:00 PM
    Therapy starts with honesty. In so many areas we are supposed to “act” in a certain way even when it is not genuine. At work, we are supposed to “act” professional and hardworking. On a date, we are supposed to “act” attractive and interesting. At school, ...
  • Letting go of food rules
    June 4, 2019 at 1:00 PM
    “Eat low fat, no eat high fat.” “Graze all day, no have three meals.” “Everything must be whole wheat, no, wait, no more gluten!” Rules are everywhere in diet culture and are often inconsistent and/or contradictory. It is difficult to keep track of what is...
  • Let's Talk About Loneliness
    May 31, 2019 at 1:00 PM
    Let’s talk about loneliness. In my opinion, it’s something that has remained taboo and shameful, especially for men and women living in New York City, who often feel like no one else feels as alone as they do. The truth is, everyone experiences loneliness ...
  • The Neuroscience of Gratitude
    May 17, 2019 at 1:00 PM
    Many of us often hear about the power of gratitude and its capacity to improve our mental health. Many studies over the past couple of years have confirmed that people who consciously work on and express gratitude tend to be less depressed, less anxious, a...
  • Emotional Reasoning: Feelings Aren’t Facts
    May 14, 2019 at 1:00 PM
    When using Cognitive Therapy, we catch the way we think and need to check our thoughts in order to change them. In order to do this, we often have to look for cognitive thinking traps. A common trap that comes up is what we call “emotional reasoning.” This...
  • The Mind-Body Connection of Stress
    April 30, 2019 at 1:00 PM
    Often our minds and bodies can seem disconnected, as if they were detached and serving different functions; however, research has shown the contrary, that their relationship is essential to our well-being. On a basic level, our bodies and minds are designe...
  • The Power of Sharing
    April 16, 2019 at 1:00 PM
    Part of the reason I became a therapist is because I grew up in a family where we did not discuss our feelings.  It did not matter if they were positive or negative, it was an unspoken norm that they were not discussed and should promptly be swept under th...
  • Integrating Mindfulness Into Your Daily Routine
    April 5, 2019 at 1:00 PM
    Finding a sense of calm and present-moment awareness in a busy and vibrant city is no easy feat. Chaotic routines and overstimulation are inevitable obstacles, thus inviting the need to be thoughtful about finding time for self-care. Mindfulness doesn’t re...
  • The Danger of Comparing Ourselves to Others
    March 29, 2019 at 1:00 PM
    We encounter dozens of people throughout the course of our day. Whether it is during our morning commute, in a meeting at work, or with friends, it is inevitable that we interact with others on a daily basis. As a human species, we instinctively compare ou...